Off the Couch

 

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I’ve coveted a lot this summer:  a smaller pair of jeans, a stronger body, a more active lifestyle, and that really cool running tank to wear for my first 5K in three years. I checked most of the things off my wish list by getting fit enough to finish the afore-mentioned 5K.  However, while getting able to complete those 3.1 miles did indeed let me squeeze into a smaller jean size and a more active lifestyle, it didn’t shrink my body small enough to access the work of fitness high fashion.

As I was reminded during my search for the perfect tank top, an XL at the discount store is not an XL in fitness (or designer) wear.  I could have worn one of my old t-shirts, but the race was a family tradition that was being revived.  I wanted something special.

I traipsed through online and offline offerings, rarely finding anything above an L or XL that didn’t fit or look more like and M.  I was losing hope.  I’d sweated all summer.  Surely something in either of my sizes – old or new – wasn’t too much to ask.  There’s every other option for active women, right down to a plunging, push-up sports-bra (still scratching my head trying to find the competitive advantage of THAT feature), but there was little for larger women who want to get off the couch (as we’re always told to do) and into activity.

So this year I did what I once did when I was too broke for store bought.  I made my own.  I’ve been finding my own groove this year.  It’s off the couch, and dancing to that beat has done a lot more than just make me smaller.  It’s made me stronger and happier and even more productive.  So I made a shirt to celebrate this new life off the couch.  It’s a change you should be able to celebrate at any size.

I’m putting my designs where my mouth is CafePress.com.  You can find T-shirts and a few other items in sizes to fit most from 0-5X.

Are We There Yet?

 

WorldsFair

One of the ironies of our life is that our resident social butterfly, six-year-old Thing2, needs an enormous amount prodding to get in the car for any weekend outing.  And so it began on Sunday morning.  

Freshly exercised and showered, and ready for our weekly breakfast at Bob’s diner in Manchester, the Big Guy, thirteen-year-old Jack, and I had one more hurdle to leap before we began our Sunday adventure – convincing – rather, ordering – Thing2 to get in the car.  Pouting and mumbling about his desire to stay put and eat the sugar cereal du jour, Thing2 finally shuffled to his booster seat and got his seat belt on.  Anyone watching would have thought we were taking him to look at military schools (the idea did cross our minds).    Instead, he was pulled out of his cocoon.  

Something about the smell of bacon and coffee temporarily banished Thing2’s grumpiness.  But when breakfast was behind us and we hit the road again, the ride took on a different character for all of us. 

The Worlds Fair in Tunbridge – our destination – is  about 90 minutes from Manchester, and Thing2 kicked off the first half hour mumbling a litany of things he’d rather be doing.  We had mentioned the word ‘fair’ a number of times before, but I had made the mistake of telling the kids it was historical, and the only part of the day Thing2 could focus on was the driving.  Finally, the Big Guy and I caught Thing2’s eye and ears to make it clear that the rest of the ride did not need a serenade of complaints.  He adjusted his tone.  The last sixty minutes were mostly quiet, punctuated only by the occasional refrain of  ‘Are we there yet?’

When we reached the muddy parking lot at the fair ground, Thing2 had zoned out, but the bump between road and muck got his attention.  The smell of manure permeated the air.  Well-groomed, uniformed students from the nearby military college cheerfully directed us to a parking space.  There were no formal ticket booths – just a few more college kids (who didn’t look old enough to shave, let alone wear uniforms) taking admission and shepherding patrons through twine-lined ‘gates’.  

Thing2 clung to my hand, then the Big Guy’s, then mine.  He had already spotted the typical fair midway.  We headed up a muddy hill away from the typical and toward the heart of the fair.  

The heart of the fair is a permanent collection of old buildings – long log cabins, a metal foundry, a carriage barn.  The first log cabin contained artifacts of Vermont home life from over the last two centuries.  Period-costumed demonstrators brought the display – and Thing2 – to life as they showed us how quilts were (and are) made or how country stores used to operate.  The second building displayed a collection of tools, and the carriage barn contain, naturally, carefully preserved carriages and wagons once used by local farmers.  But, while the quilting demonstration and old-fashioned donuts had sparked the beginning of a sincere attitude adjustment in Thing2, what was outside perked up his wings, long before we got to the midway.

Alongside the carriage barn stood pop-up tents that, instead of the usual fair t-shirts and novelty souvenirs, sheltered antique engines.  All of the engines were running, producing little pops when air bubbles went through them.  A few of the displays encouraged visitors to try their hand at grinding corn, or winding thread or pumping water the old-fashioned way.  The whirring motors and spinning gears made their own music, and Thing2 began his dance.  

The rest of the afternoon we shuttled between rides and exhibits.  We stopped for maple-flavored cotton candy (it is Vermont after all) and ‘pour-your-own’ freshly-pressed cider, and Thing2 continued dancing until long after the Big Guy and I had exhausted our reserves.  The dancing and accompanying chatter continued until we were back in the car, rolling through the muddy field again.  

“We have to do this again,” said Jack before he nodded off.  The fair was still causing Thing2’s wings to flutter, however, and it was a long time before he slept.  The excitement of seeing something different would keep them moving even when he did close his eyes, and when I heard him singing softly to himself in his sleep, I knew we were there yet.

A New Section – Start a Blog

I started working with my writing mentor for the past year, author Jon Katz, on a workshop at Hubbard Hall, a local community theater and arts center in Cambridge, NY. We’re working together on a class called ‘The Art of the Blog’, and, hoping to encourage others who might be thinking of getting on their digital soapboxes to do just that, I’ll be posting tech tips on this page as we go.

The workshop is an extension of Jon’s ‘Ministry of Encouragement’, a ministry that had a profound impact on his mentees over the last year, and I hope to pay it forward by helping anyone else who wants in getting their creative on. If you have questions I can answer, feel free to leave a comment on posts or email me directly at rachel@www.pickingmybattles.com. If I can help, I will or send you in the right direction.

Blog in an Hour – or Less

Anyone can start a blog, and it’s easier – and cheaper than you think. So get your keyboard warmed up, because in a matter of minutes, you’re going to be off and running.

The best first blog is a free blog. There are literally dozens of options for budding bloggers, but I’m going to start with the most popular and by far the most prevalent – WordPress.

This blog is powered by WordPress as are over 70 million others, including two of my favorites, BedlamFarm.com and Pugs and Pics.com. The great thing about WordPress is it can be as simple or as complex as you want it to be. You can host it yourself (for a small cost) or, if you’re just starting out, you can use the following steps to get up and running at WordPress.com for free:

 

1. Sign Up for WordPress – Visit http://www.WordPress.com and click the ‘Get Started’ button to sign up for an account.

You’ll be prompted to choose a User Name and enter your email and a password. WordPress will automatically try to name your blog after your User Name, but you can change this to anything you like, as long as it’s available:

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2. Check your inbox for a confirmation email. When you receive the email, click the ‘Activate Blog’ button to confirm your registration:

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3. Activate and Setup Your New Blog – When you click the Activate button, WordPress will open a new window letting you enter your Blog’s title, tagline and default language:

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4. Find the Perfect Outfit – This is where it starts to get fun. Now you get to select from dozens of free themes offered on WordPress.com. Some are more customizable than others, and if you know a little HTML or CSS, you can get even more creative. However, the beauty of the WordPress themes is that you don’t need to program at all to get a beautiful, easy to maintain site. To see a Theme’s details, click on it. To choose it or your site, click on it and click ‘Next Step’. For this example I’ve chose ‘Twenty-Ten’ because it is a WordPress-authored Theme with a number of customization options. We’ll customize the Theme later:

 

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5. Connect your Social Networks – If you have a Twitter or Facebook account, this next step will let you connect your blog to those accounts. This will let you automatically share your posts with your friends, helping build your traffic effortlessly.

 

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6. Create your First Post – Once you’ve connected your social networks (or if you choose not to), you can click ‘Next Step’ to begin posting. Click on the appropriate button to begin creating your first post. You can choose from to start a new text, image, video, or link-based post. WordPress will help you format images or enter a link. :

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When you’re done writing your post, click the ‘Publish’ button:

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7. Manage your Blog – After your first post is done, WordPress will take you to your site’s DashBoard. This is where you can manage your posts and change or customize your theme:

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To customize your site’s appearance, click the Appearance tab. Some themes will let you change color, fonts, and the header image, while others will only let you change a header image. All those changes will happen under the Appearance tab.

In addition to themes, WordPress offers tools called ‘Widgets’, found under the Appearance tab. Widgets let you click and drag items to your blog’s side bar:

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This is how my list of favorite blogs looks now:

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8. Go Write, Young Blogger! – That’s it! You’re ready to blog. To add a post, just click the Posts in your Dashboard sidebar. You’ll be able to add new posts or edit existing ones.

 

9. Further Steps: Settings – While WordPress.com manages upgrades and backups, there are some settings you will want to explore once you get more comfortable with WordPress.

You’ll find the Settings link just below Appearance in the Dashboard sidebar. I’ll go into more detail on settings in another post, but here are a few things you can control under Settings:

 

General – This is the first entry under Settings. On this screen, you can change the Title and tagline of your blog. You can also format your date appearance and set your time zone.

Writing – This section governs the default formats for your posts.

Reading – Under this section you can decide what posts your readers will see when they land on your page. You can also decide how many pages to show on each page and if readers will see a synopsis of each post or the entire piece.

Discussion – This section lets you decide if and how readers will be allowed to comment. You can require users to login to comment, and/or you can choose to moderate each comment before it appears to the rest of the world. These settings may change quite a bit over time, as increased traffic will increase the incidence of comments from spammers, requiring more moderation.

Media – This section governs how images and video will be presented. Sharing – This section lets you connect (or disconnect) your blog from your various social

networks. Most of the popular networks are available in this section.

Polls – One way to build traffic and interest is to engage your readers with questions or surveys. WordPress works in conjunction with PollDaddy.com to let you create custom surveys or opinion polls that can be displayed on your blog. You can configure these options under the Polls section

Ratings – This tab lets you determine how posts’ popularity will be displayed (or not). Ad Control – To keep WordPress.com free, ads will appear on your blog from time to time.

Under Ad Control, you can purchase an upgrade to remove ads from your site.

Email Post Changes – This section lets you decide if you want to be notified when a post or page changes.

OpenID – When you register your WordPress blog, your blog address becomes your OpenId. This ID lets you login to any OpenId-enabled blog or site for commenting or connection. In this section of your WP settings, you can create a list of trusted sites. Please note that OpenID is being discontinued, so this setting may not be available in the near future.

WebHooks – This lets you decide if WordPress will notify you of any changes to the blog, such as when a new comment is added.

 

 

What Works

 

Elbow grease

In my online search for flea killing and excavating solutions, I found just about everything.  I found people who’d salted their carpets to dehydrate the little monsters to death.  I found recommendations for different flea collars and pills for the cat and dog.  I found the community of pet owners besieged with these demons and offering advice is bigger than I would have imagined, and, after trying numerous cures with varying degrees of failure, I found that sometimes this mother does know best.  At least when it comes to conquering fleas.

Early my war, I stumbled onto a flea forum wherein a debate over natural vs. nuclear solutions had raged for several years.  I had been bombing and cleaning and laundering for a few days already, so my preference leaned toward any idea that involved a quick, painful, poison-filled death for the vermin.  While mine was not the prevailing sentiment on the forum, one post stood out not only because of the poster’s willingness to experiment with any carcinogenic flea solution, but because his query had, in less than 100 words, evolved into a complaint.  

The rant was an exclamation-filled diatribe decrying any natural or ‘hippie’ solution as the poster prayed that someone knew of an effective solution for fleas.  If a post could sound like a whine, this one did.  I knew it because it was a sound I had indulged in a few times over the last few days as I fantasized about a magic cure. 

But like anything in life, there was no magic.  Ultimately, there’s been experimentation and cleaning and vacuuming.  Every surface of our house has been vacuumed and dusted and mopped and then vacuumed again.

We don’t live in filth, but our house has long been an homage to clutter, so daily cleaning (as opposed to the pre-company preparation our house sees once every month or so) has been a big change in my routine.  It’s also been incredibly effective – as evidenced by the now-empty DIY flea traps I’ve set around the house – and it’s made me think about a response I would give to that angry post if I had energy or desire to confront anything but flying dust specks. 

I wouldn’t have the hippie solution.  I’d have the mom solution – probably the one my mom would have suggested.  It’s the stop-whining-buy-a-case-of-vacuum-bags-and suck-it-up (literally and figuratively)-until-the job-is-done solution. That’s the kind of advice I would have once received when faced with a  bedroom to clean or a mountain of homework to do, and it still works.  Score one more point for Mom.